A few of you have asked me to talk more about pet play — kitten play, in particular. Because I’ve only briefly touched on the subject of pet play before, this is as good a time as any to talk about it, yes? So if you want an idea of how to go about getting into kitten play, read on.
What is Kitten Play, anyway?
Kitten play, a subset of pet play, is a type of Domination and submission play session, that typically consists of a submissive ‘pet’, and the ‘owner’ or guardian role is assumed by the Dominant.
As a kitten, submissives can experience a fun way to escape their day-to-day life, human responsibilities, and more serious aspects of their relationship. The major component of kitten play, and pet play in general, is the feeling of having someone taking care of the submissive. It’s a great way to shake up your routine, whether you’re a seasoned dominant or just a curious kitty.
As I’ve mentioned before, while the most common pet roles are kittens and puppies, you’re more than welcome to incorporate other kinds of animals. The rules are the same, no matter what type of pet play you choose to do, so we’re going to focus on the kitties.
Getting Started
Before you get started, it’s important for both partners to talk about what they expect and want out of a play session, and nail down some rules and safety issues before play can begin. Does the kitten want to lounge about, or take on a more active, curious personality?
There should be some sort of signal for when play begins and ends — perhaps the owner will slip a collar on the pet to start the play, and the kitten will rub its head on the ankle of the partner and lick to signal that they are ready to ‘transform’ back into a human.
As always, it is important to agree upon a safe word that will designate that one or both parties need a break from the fantasy.
What to Wear
In my opinion, the best kitten accessories to get into the right headspace are collars, ears and a tail. The nice thing is that you can be as original as you’d like, wearing anything from typical catwear, to an all-fur, a sexy catsuit, or something else entirely — like latex. I dig latex…
As for newer kitties, if they’re not ready to go full-on kitty, I would recommend that they wear their favourite lingerie, accessorised with matching cat ears and their favourite collar, until they’re comfortable wearing other things — or nothing at all.
Playing With the Pussy
Kittens may find themselves chewing, romping about, teething or imitating other common feline behaviours like hunting prey, chasing, purring, sunbathing, scratching and giving nuzzles, headbutts or scratches – if they’re feeling feisty.
There is a definite freedom in kitten play if a submissive wants to be creative. They can nuzzle their partner or knead a blanket to signal that they’re content and comfortable with their experience.
Owners can help their kittens flesh out their feline roles a bit more by having specific rules about eating, playing with toys, using the bathroom, etc. Some important things to think about are:
- Will the kitten eat human food? or will food, water dishes, or milk be used?
- Will the kitten use the restroom conventionally, or will a litterbox be incorporated into the pet play?
- Will the kitten be allowed to play on furniture?
Regarding punishment, if the kitten is being naughty, how will they be reprimanded for bad behaviour? Keep in mind that the typical punishment and reward systems aren’t a necessary component for pet play. As a matter of fact, they should be left out altogether in my opinion. People – sane ones, at least – wouldn’t punish a real kitten the same way they would a human being, so they shouldn’t punish their human kittens that way.
And if they would punish a real kitten like a human being, then they’ve a whole different set of issues that they should work out – preferably with professional help. Moving on…
Another thing I would suggest that owners keep in mind is that while it’s common for kittens to move about on their hands and knees throughout the play to fully get into the feline mindset, they should talk to their partner about what will happen if playing becomes too hard on their knees or joints, and come up with alternate ways to play if necessary – because no one wants to be reminded of their arthritic knees in the middle of playing.
Sexing the Pussy
Kitten play doesn’t necessarily have to lead to penetration. As a matter of fact, some kitties are happy just to be petted, disciplined, or simply be cared for.
However, there are still many imaginative, feline ways for owners to arouse their partner. Kittens may lick, purr, and scratch during foreplay and sex, while their owners can reward them with things that pleasure them, like returning play with their kitten, and reward them for being good.
In Conclusion
Kitten play is a great way for people to break out of their usual sexual roles and discover surprising new ways to engage with their partner. Dominants getting into kitten play with a submissive that is typically shy or reserved, may see them transform before their eyes into a rowdy, curious kitten, wildly playing about the bedroom.
I’ll fully admit that with some of my submissives, I definitely have a thing for kitten play. This has a lot to do with the fact I find it amusing and makes me smile…
And that latex thing.
Here are some other articles I’ve written that mention pet play:
So, is kitten play your thing? Is it something that you’ve thought about? I’d love to hear about your experiences. Let me know in the comments.
Thank you for the details which paint a very realistic picture!
You’re welcome, and thank you for reading!
Kitten play doesn’t have to be a submissive act. Cats can be independent or social. Feral cats can have order. Cats come in all shapes and sizes. Would you want to play with a panther? Meow!
This is just what I was looking for! My partner has expressed an interest in kitten play so I’m currently doing my homework.
Brilliant! I’m glad to know that the article helped you. Good luck!
I myself am rather new to the bdsm scene and have been relentlessly finding out what I can about any and all it’s how my brain works lol anyways, my partner has expressed her desires for kitten play as well as opened the door to a side of me I never knew was possible and for that i am grateful and privileged. I love the article was informative and I believe I’ve read a couple of your others as well thanks for the good read. I’m always open to learn more as long as it the teacher/instructor fits what I’m trying to achieve, any tips for a novice is welcomed. Thanks
This is actually very helpful I’m usually in DDLG relationships, but my partner told me that they were into kitten play and this has brought a light to issues I didnt even think about
Thanks for commenting! I’m glad I could help, and good luck to you both.
glad i found this article, my girlfriend is into this and im to treat her right as her owner so thanks
I’m glad it helped, mate. Thanks for reading!
Thank you for this. I’m a kitten seeking blogs and current articles about the pet play lifestyle, specifically kitten play. Mew.
Thank you for reading! I’m glad to know that I was able to help.
Hey this is really helpful thanks, I’m a new domme looking at getting into kitten play with one of my subs ☺️
Thank you for reading, Nova! I’m glad you found it helpful, and good luck to you.
Omg, I’ve been trying to explain what I’m into and this has like perfectly explained it. Thank you so much.
You’re welcome, Lundyn. Thank you for reading!
Thank you for writing this article, it has helped me get a further insight into how the kitten play with my dom may progress.
Awesome to hear Ash! Thanks for reading.