'Desire is not weakness.
It's a weapon, wielded by the one who dares to lead.'
What is Dominant Desires?
A manifesto. A mindset. A mirror.
No fluff. No pandering.
Just sharp insight, real talk, and unapologetic masculinity—for those who demand more than the world dares offer.
About Rajan Dominari
Rajan Dominari's work explores dominance, deep desire, and the erotic spark of surrender.
His words are for those who lead, and those who ache to be undone.
What began as a quiet blog has become something darker, deeper, and more deliberate.
Books & Writings
'Not all dominance is loud.
Some of it lingers in the silence
between your legs.'
Rajan’s essays and forthcoming books are released through Raven Row Press in curated print editions.
More coming soon.
About Rajan Dominari
Rajan Dominari has been part of the BDSM lifestyle for over two decades. He is a respected educator, speaker, and consultant whose work is rooted in lived experience—not borrowed theory.
In 2011, Rajan launched the blog Dominant Desires, offering sharp insight into power dynamics, masculine leadership, and the unspoken structure of D/s relationships. Since then, his work has reached tens of thousands—through essays, private mentorship, and Dominant Desires: The Podcast.
He writes not for tourists, but for those with skin in the game. For those living this life, or learning it with honour.
Originally from London, England, Rajan now lives in Chicago, IL. He can often be found drinking a strong gin and tonic, thinking in silence, or imagining the sound of a flogger landing just right.
About Dominant Desires
Dominant Desires was founded by Rajan Dominari in 2011 as a platform for him to share his perspectives on issues he observed within various BDSM dynamics and communities—particularly in response to trends emerging during the early Fifty Shades of Grey era.
Over the years, the website has grown into a well-respected resource for BDSM education, reaching readers worldwide. It offers insightful, respectful content designed to both educate and entertain newcomers and experienced practitioners alike.
Rajan’s educational approach is rooted in traditional BDSM principles. While he acknowledges and respects the positive contributions of some modern BDSM practices, his focus remains on preserving the integrity and values of traditional BDSM, avoiding topics that might redefine or dilute its core essence.
Dominant Desires continues to be a trusted voice in the community, committed to fostering knowledge, respect, and authentic connection within the BDSM lifestyle.
If you have questions, want to explore consultations, or learn more about Rajan’s books, feel free to get in touch.
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Ask A Dominant
There is strength in seeking clarity—and intention in asking the right question.
Whether you lead, follow, or ache to surrender, this space welcomes those navigating the deeper realities of BDSM dynamics,
power exchange, and erotic authority.
If you are submissive, uncertain, or simply drawn to the presence of dominance, you may ask.
Your voice is not diminished by your desire—it is sharpened by it.
Rajan answers a select number of questions with the same care he brings to his writing: measured, discerning, and unapologetically dominant.
Speak plainly. Ask with purpose.
You may not always receive the answer you were hoping for—only the one you truly need.